Should I Get a Divorce? How a Pre-Divorce Coach Can Help
Should I Get a Divorce? A Pre-Coaching Session Will Be Life-Changing
Many difficult emotions surface when thoughts of divorce start creeping into the back of your mind but rarely are they rational or controlled. Instead, they are intense and can cloud the thoughts of any calm and composed person, quickly becoming overwhelming. There is so much to consider that will need to be done, and every situation is different.
You may have sought the advice of friends – but because your friends and family love you, their advice may be laden with emotions, from advising you to stay and work on a marriage that is beyond saving, to telling you to take your partner for everything when you have grown apart. Although they love you, it may not always be the best advice.
A Divorce Coach may seem like a strange idea to some, but if there was someone that was unbiased, knew the process very clearly, and you knew they would give you advice that you NEED to hear, wouldn’t you listen?
Seeing a pre-divorce coach does not always lead to divorce. The first thing your coach should discuss is if divorce is what you want, providing strategies to work through your thoughts and emotions. They can help you decide with confidence what are the next right steps for you. Suppose you know that you want to separate. In that case, a pre-divorce coach will explain the necessary steps to proceed. They’ll help you through the practical and emotional aspects of preparing to leave. The aim is to set you on a path towards a peaceful, simple separation that can lead to an amicable divorce.
Clarity about your decision
A pre-divorce coach will talk with you about where you are now physically, emotionally, and financially. Divorce may not be the answer to solve problems that may feel unfixable. However, sometimes all you may need is someone to clarify the actual issues, what both you and your spouse may be able to do to bring the relationship back on track, and what the consequences are if you don’t try and have regrets later.
Preparing for the emotional toll
Deciding to divorce is hard enough. The emotions that follow can be a rollercoaster. Having a breakup divorce coach sitting next to you that has ridden this rollercoaster before means they know the twists and turns. They can guide you along the journey, helping ease your fears, and making the experience feel less unpredictable.
Understanding the complexities and stages of separation and divorce
A separation coach can take you through all the steps that separation and divorce will bring. From denial at the start to anger, grief and sadness. Knowing what is coming, how it will make you and others involved feel, and having the tools ready to deal with it can mean dealing with things calmly, allowing you to maintain a solid co-parenting relationship with your ex.
Genuine support and rational advice
There will be times when the emotions get too much, and you need to vent to someone to get all those feelings out. Calling a relative or a friend is not always a great idea because they might encourage and fuel emotions that could create a situation you may regret later. Think of your divorce coach as your friend who has a clear head and can talk you out of decisions and reactions that sabotage a calm and even amicable separation.
Having someone who can advise you, support you, validate your feelings and show you how to process them is invaluable during one of the most stressful times in your life. Keeping you calm without being emotionally involved means that their expert advice is GOOD advice that may lead to having a friendship or healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex once all is said and done.
Emotional and practical support with the logistics of separation and divorce
All the steps that need to be taken when separating and divorcing can quickly become overwhelming and stressful. Organising kids, relocating outside the family home, splitting finances, bank accounts, child support and perhaps refinancing, that’s a lot to handle at an already stressful time. Having a breakup coach can help you organise and prioritise, assisting you with these complex and sometimes confusing issues when your brain is already in overdrive. Many people, especially if they have been dependent on their partner for finances and decisions for a long time, will benefit from this type of support. You don’t have to go through divorce alone.